Targeting Mr Right …how to become the modern SIREN woman By Tope Ikpe

Have you ever felt like a man is just out of reach? That everything you do to try to get closer to him,to get him to pay attention to you, and to give you the affection and closeness you really want, seemsto push him even further away? You are so not alone. My Targeting Mr. Right programme will help you get your Mr. Right without chasing him in any way. It will help you know when you're chasing a man, and when you aren't. "Targeting" will teach you exactly how to go about getting your Mr. Right in ways that really truly work.

Are you chasing after a man and don't even know it? I know how frustrating it is to sit back and let a man drift away. Every single one of us women instinctively want to go run after a man, grab him and thrown him to the ground, rather than let him get away.

If we're feeling just "friendly," if we really don't feel attracted to, or interested, in a man, then WHATEVER WE DO, our "vibe" will be just "friendly." But, if we actually ARE attracted to a man, if we ARE interested in him in a romantic way, and then we try to ACT "friendly" - it's going to come off as fake. It's going to come across to him as inauthentic. It's going to come across to him like chasing. And, it's going to make him feel all kinds of things -- but none of those things will be what you want him to feel -- attraction for you. Here are some things we may think of as "friendly," that are actually CHASING a man.

1. Calling him up. This includes calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you knew there was a great band playing somewhere, or someone told you about some great event that you want to invite him to or - anything at all. This includes calling him to ask him why he hasn't called you. This includes calling him to tell him you're upset that you haven't heard from him. This includes calling him to give him directions to your home or answering any question he hasn't specifically asked, or giving him any information he hasn't specifically asked for, or offering anything. This does NOT include: You're having a problem or an emergency, and you can't reach a friend or a relative, and you've been dating him long enough that he's started "future-talking" about things he'd like to do with you and places he'd like to go with you and you need his help. Don't be afraid of appearing weak. If you need something -- something of course that has nothing to do with the relationship -- don't be afraid to ask. This is what being a girl is all about.

2. E-mailing him, texting him, facebooking him, writing him, sending him a cute card, dropping by his house, dropping by his gym, calling up his friend, or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.

3. Making suggestions, making plans and then inviting him to come and join you, offering to drive to him, offering to drive on the date, offering to put him up for the night on your couch, or in your bed...

...Offering to cook for him, initiating sex, initiating affection (in any way other than smiling with an open heart and body), initiating the "talk" about "where the relationship is going," getting anything having to do with the relationship "started"...

...Creating a "special occasion," sending him anything (pictures, mementos, ideas), thinking out loud to him about things you can do together, telling him about things you can do together, and creating things to do together......Or, in any way, acting like the social director of the relationship.

4. Asking him how he "feels." This includes, especially, asking him how he feels about "you," or the "relationship." These are things we do almost without even thinking about it. These are things that feel natural to us. It feels almost weird and unnatural to not do these things. It feels like we're not being "nice."It feels like we're not being "friendly."

It feels like we're going to lose him by not letting him know we're "interested" in him. It feels like we're just letting him slip through our fingers. AND, NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH. Everything on this list is the same as putting a sign on your chest that says "Needy." It smacks of desperation. And, it's just plain not attractive to him. He may LIKE it. He may go along with it. He may be flattered. He may have no one else around and so he'll date you. He may even come to like you very much. You may even end up in a relationship with him.

But, you will never know how he really feels about you. As long as YOU'RE the one running the show, he may follow, but he'll never feel inspired. And, you will never feel adored. This is the point where you will find yourself up late at night crying and wondering why he doesn't want to commit to you. The total, complete opposite of this is being a Modern Siren.

A siren will lure a man to her without doing any of those things that so many of us think are so necessary to do. A siren inspires a man to chase her because of how SHE feels about herself. A siren not only knows how to magnetically attract a man to chase HER, but can LET a man chase her. A siren knows how to receive what a man wants to give her – which is everything. A siren expresses herself in words and with her body language so that a man can FEEL her down to his toes.

Being a siren is about luring a man, about allowing him to chase her without being "passive" or "powerless."

If you'd like to know exactly what to DO and SAY in order to embody those siren qualities I just mentioned, try my Modern Siren program. You'll learn exactly how to BE around a man so that he feels utterly mesmerized and attracted, without you having to do any chasing, pursuing, calling, cajoling or enticing. It's a very authentic and feminine way of being, and it is exactly what attracts a man and tugs at his heart. If you're doing any of those things on the "Chasing List" - know that these things are FILLED with a sense of "neediness" that just knocks all the attraction out of a man. Doing these things - even though they seem friendly and nice and "modern" - are anything BUT - they are things that always have, and will always NOT, work to attract a man. In fact, the truth is that even THINKING these things - and somehow holding on to believing that these things are good things to do - will not only not work for you - thinking these things will work AGAINST you. So, if you can't do those things -- what do you do?

I really want you to know that there's another way to express yourself - a way that will bring a man close instead of pushing him away. And, they're completely different things than we women are used to doing. It's a way of BEING with a man that makes him just want to be with you forever. It's a way of being a "Modern Siren." So - what does that mean - Modern Siren - and how does it work to be a Modern Siren?

A siren is a woman who loves herself so much that she can turn even the parts of herself she may think are ugly and unpleasant and difficult and painful -- into her most powerful assets. A siren knows that what a man craves is EMOTION, emotion that he can't find in himself, emotion that will make him feel like a whole man.

The next time you're tempted to do any of those things I've listed in the "Chasing List" -- and you're tempted to think of any of those things as something nice and friendly and womanly, and something that a man would like -- Don't do it. You will begin to feel like a siren -- like the magical creature you are, just because you're a woman -- when you start practicing just knowing that you have everything a man needs without having to do anything at all. Let me know how this Tool works for you


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